Women with female role models set more ambitious goals

Women with female role models set more ambitious goalsWomen with female role models set more ambitious goalsBefore you can be who you want to become, it helps if you can landsee it. A new survey from Lean Cuisine and New York University psychology professor Emily Balcetisfound that women raise the bar when they have female role models that they can emulate.Women get more ambitious when they have ambitious women in their lifeSomeone believing in you can make all the difference. The survey had female role models accompany the participants as they chose life goals in an experiment. The survey found that 89% of women set more ambitious goals in the presence of other women they admire, and 77% chose bigger goals in the aspects of life they saw as most important.Having a female role model welches a physical, daily reminder of career ambition. The women chose higher salaries and longer hours at work when they were in the presence of a woman they admired.What was most compelling in this expe riment was how women close to us can help to relieve the societal pressure to have it all, and instead focus each other to achieve her all, Balcetis said about the results. We saw women helping other women identify their truest versions of themselves and encouraging them to strike for higher potential.This finding is consistent with other studies on the power of women having female role models. When women are in male-dominated fields, that woman mentor who they can confide in and commiserate with can be the difference between them staying or quitting. Women keep women in engineering, one study found. Female engineering students who had a female peer mentor in their major became more confident and were less likely to drop out.When you know someone ahead of you has walked in your shoes, the long, hard path of your career becomes easier to walk.

Women, stop apologizing Embrace an attitude of gratitude

Women, stop apologizing Embrace an attitude of gratitudeWomen, stop apologizing Embrace an attitude of gratitudeIm a recovering apologizer. I didnt realize it until someone pointed it out to me, but I used to apologize constantly. Id apologize if the barista messed up my drink and had to remake it. I apologized if a client ran over their allotted time. I apologized as a way to make sure that there was no misunderstanding about who I was a kind woman.Not to be mistaken for one of those uber aggressive, domineering and often off-putting in the workplace women.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreMy best friends other best friend pointed out this flaw to me right around the time I turned 30. We had just met in New York City and spent some time together. She was one of those women who carried a cool confidence-a revered lawyer, quick-witted, tell it like it is, beautiful, kind, interesti ng and a great friend. One day she turned to me, soon after we met, and said, Why do you apologize all the time?The first words that wanted to flow out of my mouth were, Im sorry. The irony is bedrngnis gelbkreuzgas on me. How could I have gone almost 30 years on the planet without noticing this about myself? And if she was bold enough to point it out, how many other people have I annoyed or bothered over the years with this trait?I knew I had to quit apologizing. This was a trained habit, though. My entire life was spent saying Im sorry. I realized I did this most often at the worst place to do it at work. The plethora of sorrys, that I hoped would convey that I wasnt aggressive, were hurting how people saw me in the office. It dawned on me that when I would apologize unnecessarily, and too often, it would give off this nervous energy. That energy was a neatly wrapped package of low confidence. All the while I thought I was showing the world my kindness. I was actually showcasing how I wasnt sure if I felt like I belonged there.This brought me to my next conclusion-I didnt think I belonged. I was apologizing for my presence, just in case it wasnt enough. This is fundamentally ridiculous. I went to a great college, I have wonderful relationships with my previous bosses and I am good at my job. Of course, I belonged. Yet there I was, at thirty years old, feeling the need to apologize for myself. And maybe in some way, I was apologizing for overcoming years of female oppression, coming out of the kitchen and showing up to the workplace capable of doing any job a man can do.I stopped apologizing for anything that didnt involve me directly hurting someone elses feelings. What I found was this eliminated about ninety-five percent of my apologies.I stepped into an attitude of gratitude. Instead of apologizing to someone for having to fix work they messed up, I would thank them for their hard work. Instead of apologizing to a client for overstepping their billable h ours, I would thank them for understanding theyd have to be billed more this month due to the extra work.I talked to a woman who owns two businesses. We touched on this topic briefly, and she mentioned a phrase her grandfather used to use, Dont be afraid to take up space. This was what I needed to hear. To every woman out there take up space. You earned that space.The more we show up to work (and life) without apologizing for our presence, the better off we will be. If all women pull up a chair and sit in their confidence, there will be no doubt that we belong there. I know I belong. So do you. Lets not apologize for it.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

Tips for Keeping the Job You Have

Tips for Keeping the Job You HaveTips for Keeping the Job You HaveOne of the comments I get over and over again from unemployed job landseekers is to do whatever you can to keep the job you have, unless youre ready to move on and have a new job lined up. If you are unhappy with your job, before turning in yourresignation, take a look at these tips on how to keep your position. You dont need to stay forever, but, if you can, you may want tostay at least until you have another job lined up,because its harder to find a new positionwhen youre unemployed. Top 10 Tips for Keeping Your Job Try and Make the Job Work.Is there anything you could be doing differently to make the job work? Could you ask for a transfer or a shift change? Is there anything that would make a difference and convince you to stay? Work Hard.Most employers dont mind a little time spent on facebook inc or texting, but do focus on your job and give your employer the time youre getting paid for. When it comes to makin g lay-off decisions, and the company has to choose, your employer will keep the most productive employees. Make sure youre one of them. If spending too much time on Facebook is your main vice, make it more difficult to visit the website by installing a Facebook blocker in your browser. Both Google Chrome and Apple offer a couple that are highly effective in keeping your Facebook time in check. Be On Time.Employees who are late to work, take a long lunch hour, use a ton of sick time, and/or leave early every day arent going to win any points with their boss. Be punctual and be there, instead of making excuses for why you cant be at work. Should a personal issue be the cause of your tardiness, schedule a meeting with your boss to explain the situation. Ask if they would allow you to stay late to make up for lost time until you resolve the issue. Most employers will sympathize and be flexible if the matter is serious enough. Be a kollektiv Player.Be the employee who gets along well wit h everyone, who doesnt take part in workplace gossip, and who offers to help colleagues. A positive attitude and kindness goes a long way in earning respect and trust from your colleagues. This approach will even lead to your heightened satisfaction and happiness at work. Be Flexible.Flexibility can be a key component of hanging on to your job. When your company needs someone to change shifts, work weekends, put in some overtime, or take on new tasks, consider volunteering if your personal schedule permits. Dont Complain.Nobody likes complainers, regardless of how legitimate the complaints are. If you dont like your job, know that there are plenty of other people who would jump at the chance to get it. One way to stop complaining is to practice gratefulness by saying, I get to do something, instead of I have to do something. By changing one word, you will immediately start to see the glass half full There are some cases when it does make sense tospeak up. If for example, you are bei ng discriminated against or harassed by a co-worker, then it is important that you have a formal meeting with someone from HR. Offer to Help.One of the best ways to get (or keep) job security is to volunteer for new initiatives, to offer to help with projects, and to take on more responsibility. Doing so will also benefit you the more you take on tasks outside of your comfort zone, the more you will learn and grow. Keep Social Media and Work Separate.Even if youhate your job, keep it to yourself or your trustworthy family and friends. Dont post your discontent on social media, because chances are, the wrong person will see it. That, in and of itself, can cost you your job. Be Positive.A positive attitude is very contagious and a key component to keeping your job long-term. I have a Post-it note on my desk with the quote, Cheerfulness is a choice, from Rosanne Cash. Maintaining a positive attitude, even through tough times, will make your life and the lives of your colleagues much e asier. If you feel stuck in a negative rut, make simple changes to your daily routine to become more positive. Suck it Up.Maybe its not your favorite job. Maybe youd rather be doing something else. However, it is a paycheck and if you need the income, it can make sense to stay until you secure a new position. Also spend some time considering whether its more than the job job thats the problem - perhaps your career is in need of a makeover. When All Else Fails.When keeping your job simply isnt feasible, and it isnt always, take the time toprepare to job searchand plan your departure. That way, youre not scrambling to find a job because you just got terminated. But be sure you have secured a job before quitting, if you can.In fact, research shows that its much easier to find a job when you are employed. Related Articles Reasons to Quit Your Job How to Quit a Job